3 Reasons Why Co-habiting With Your Lover Might Spell Doom

We already know that marriage is a lifelong contract and that it needs to be embarked on meticulously. Whilst some may argue that marrying their lover living with them was best for them, but with a critical look down the line, they have come to realize that such practice was a charade which have caused them some hitches in future.


Co- habiting with your lover simply put means that you have come to terms with living with your partner with whom you are supposed to tie the nuptial knot with. The questions therefore are; is there really anything wrong with this? Aren’t there a thousand and one people who have treaded this path and are married today?


If you have been in doubt about this particular subject, then perhaps this read just might help. Follow me as we look at 3 reasons why this act might spell doom for you.

1. Excess Familiarity
I am sure that for the umpteenth time you must have heard the saying that goes; ‘too much familiarity breeds contempt’. Without a shadow of doubt, this is true and really holds sway with many marriages. Now imagine couples who weren’t live in lovers going through this phase, let alone live-in lovers who end up being married couples. Here is what happens; they become so used to themselves that they might even begin to take the love they share very unserious. The lesson here is that it is very needful that you wait before you are married before you begin to live with your partner so as to scale through this challenge that is capable of dealing a sad blow at your eventual union.


2. Co- habitation isn’t A Guarantee of Love
If you thought before now that living with your lover means that you would be loved more and in turn be the number one option for marriage, then you just may consider having a rethink. There is no guarantee that real love exists or might exist if you co- habited. In fact what this does is cause a great level of sexual attraction build between you both which might eventually become a stale one after you both must have become too sexually entwined. The rule of thumb therefore is to build your love independent of living together.

3. Nothing New
Ever seen a couple who have never lived together before anticipate for their wedding day? Well, if you have then you just would have realized a great level of enthusiasm that rushes through with excitement whenever the thought that the d- day draws near surfaces. Now, you would find that the reverse is the case when you co-habit before marriage. Doing this means that there just mightn’t be anything new as you both must have seen it all, explored all that people do and what have you. Lesson here is that you wait till you are married till you co-habit.